Thursday, August 25, 2005

To be in Denial

In our lives we have all been in stage where we are in denial about something , I know I have and still do. For instance, you may be gaining some few pounds on all those sensitive areas ie the bums, the thighs and the lower tummy(especially that) .Thanks to all the chocolate and cheesecake that you ate when you were in denial that "he still loves me, he will be back " moment only 4 months down the line you hear he got engaged and you are invited to the wedding:-).

Back to the analogy, one day you go flirting with yourself in the mirror and trying this outfit you have been dying to floss with on a certain occasion. Lo and behold:-) it cannot fit you the way it did a month ago! . This is the moment of denial . You are like hakuna, there is no way. "it must have shrank when I I took it for dry cleaning, haki they must have washed it with cold water" Yeah right, that is pure denial, you know you have not been hitting the gym they way you used to five times a week, you have reduced it to twice a week and when you do, you are on an ellipitical the lowest level , no incline and just reading away the latest people magazine looking all cute in that sexy gym outffit :-) . Yes I have done that, deny I'm not gaining weight , ati si I work out and I'm not losing nada na kumbe I have been eating all those chapos and munching away all the snacks my finger can get hold of day in ,day out and not burning it enuff calories!

Thing is, we all in our lives one way or another stay in denial about something when we are not ready to face the truth, when the truth pierces the core of your heart, when we fear we will be all alone to face it but you know ultimately you will have to face the facts however unpleasant.

Denial is good only temporarily but in the long run it can cause more harm than good when you realize how much time you waste being in denial instead of admitting the truth and move on. If your relationship with certain someone is not working and deep down you know it , face it head on and it might be the best thing for both of you. If your kajamaa is cheating and you have been excusing him day , in day out when confornted by family and freinds, face it and you are better of. If you failed that exam because you didn't study hard enough, don't go blaming the professor that he didn't cover the material well. Admit that you need to study harder next time or even you are not so good in that topic. It is hard to admit and to face facts about stuff that go haywire in our lives that maybe "we should have known" but the fast you admit and embrace the mistakes, the better for your peace of mind and soul and that , will make you a stronger and better person.



8 comments:

Stunuh Jay said...

NAH-AH!!!! It's definitely the dry cleaners... do you know how many times they screw up the outfits and don't tell you because it still looks sawa! ANyway that's my story and am sticking to it, even tho' my dry cleamer is in the basement of the building and uses tide and snuggle for the laundry!

Irena said...

He!he! that's true too.I miss Omo -"Inatoa madoadoa yote" Woiyee some of the garment here would dissolve for good if you tried to use Omo. Omo was so powerful and how did our hands survive such harsh treatment:-)

Poi said...

Hahhah, am with you. You are funny girl! We all at some point face denial, run from the truth but in time if we let us then we come into terms and face it head on as well said by you.

Great post. Keep them coming..

@Stunuh jay, ala could we happen to do our laundry at the same place?? hahhahha

Irena said...

Poi: That's right gal!

Prousette said...

Agree with Stunuh the story and sticking to it because it is more than I can deal with at a particular moment. You want me to admit that I have been wasting my time with a good for nothing person who will walk all over me at one point? Kinda hard!

Irena said...

Prousette; A girl got to do what she got to do:-)

Wambui said...

....and it is not just a river in egypt! You are funny!

Clothes shrink when washed....they DO!

LifeMoments said...

"Denial is good only temporarily but in the long run it can cause more harm than good when you realize how much time you waste being in denial instead of admitting the truth and move on."

IF ONLY I HAD KNOWN THIS EARLIER.....