Monday, August 22, 2005

If I was down would you still have love me?

We all have standards of who we would like to meet for a summer rendevous or even a possible relationship. I'm going to speak of chile's in particular because I'm one of them (go figure) . We all want this guy who has it together , a great job, a good house , the latest car , the latest tech toys etc . When I'm strolling on the street of downtown DC especially during lunch break, I'm always checking out the guys .Usually the guys that catches my attention are the clean cut types, nice suits, well lets say white collar type. If one even acknowleges my presence and attempts to smile or say hi, trust me the adrenaline shoots up, I prolly have this big ol smile and followed by a feeling of "mmm I'm still a great catch" and start imagining what "we" could do together and what kind of a relationship we would have ,breakfast in bed, hair down, sunglasses riding his ferrari, candle light dinner on his yatch etc.

The same scenario, only this time around, it is from one of the "brown" UPS/FeDex guys or even one of those "can you spare a quarter type" and my reaction is completely the opposite. I suddenly frown and even though I will say hi back at him, I 'm already cursing, even to the point of going to the mirror later to see why he even dared to think we could have anything going ,if he were to even try. I even go ahead and see myself in that one bedroom apartment with him , children crying all over the place , strugglin to make ends meet etc. When I think about it though, there are many stories of how most of us women we aim so high for the potential guy,some get "lucky" and get that one when he is up and making it but if he were to lose that job suddenly and he is reduced to wearing the UPS/Fedex uniform or even begging for that quarter, would you stay or suddenly the mad love somehow vanishes?

I know of so many women who will love a guy for what he is careerwise, what he drives etc. Question is? if you like all those things he has ,why don't you get them yourself , it is actually more satifying when you call it yours you know....so anyways please if you are with someone for what they make, drive etc ," la vita รจ piena scossa" Life can shock you when that person's life changes dramatically and loses it all . So be with someone if you really and trully love the person for better or worse not only when they are fun and can provide and when all is gone , your love turns sour, that is inhuman period!


Anyway I'm not saying that you should not have standards, certainly, you deserve the best but choose wisely!

15 comments:

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Poi said...

Awwww! u gat imagination girl! Candle-lit dinners vs kids crying all over lol

One thing's for sure is one always gets what they already are. You got me thinking...

Irena said...

direct tv deals: I have comcast cable and I love it to death!!Sorry your intrusion didn't work:-)

Poi: Poi that imagination is the tip of the iceberg, I have a whole lot more , I need to write a romance thriller , you know Mills & Boons type:-)

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sandman said...

you never know, maybe that jama in a brown ups uni is in his last sem in pharmacy school and he'll be making 100k/yr starting in the next few months. Think how satisfying it would feel to be with him when he finally buys that mansion on the hill or when he cashes his first 5 digit paycheck.and he'll know you love him for him and he'll love you even more. When a jama is made, he's never really sure if the chic genuinely pendas him or it's the money and it's always at the back of his mind.

Afromusing said...

i havent read the post yet, just wanted to say WELCOME BACK!! I am so glad you are blogging again, i had missed you.Ok..i am going to read the post now...:)

gishungwa said...

thanks for apssing by my place. I feel you totally, i have just an imagination buut lately i have workingon getting mu own stuff then that way when i split with whoever then i still ahve my stuff its a better feelign when you can depend on yourself.
i have also learnt after working in arusha that you cant judge a book by its cover as sandman said, coz you see all these maasais with their shukas then he walks over to another hot vx you know so nowadays i listen and judge based on if i like the person that you are.
nice post

Guessaurus said...

Welcome back Wanjiru. I have always lived by your statement :"Question is? if you like all those things he has ,why don't you get them yourself , it is actually more satifying when you call it yours you know.." - why would i expect a guy to be driving a red hot Ferrari when i dont even own a bike! Own a huge house when i dont have one myself... well, nice post, and yes imagination does take us far and wide, but remember, when you need someone to hold you through the cold nights, I am sure the huge car will be in the garage waiting to be started up in the morning!

Irena said...

Sandman: Totally I agree, most of the brown guys have other things going on .That is why they say "Do not judge the book by its cover" . By the way, here in the US as you prolly have seen, looks and appearance are so worshipped that very few people care about the person beneath.This is also true with some guys, unless you have Gucci bag and Manolos and that fake weave going on, you are not worth their time of the day...


Afro musing: I'm back home and glad to be back. I missed you all.

Gicungwa: Ok ..I had to smile when I read your username:-)
There is nothing like having your own stuff. No one can own you whatsoever plus if things do not work with Mr. all that, then you have something to fall back to

ndutu said...

Thanks for stopping by Kilimambogo. I like the posts and I'll definitely be back here for more neighbor!

This is what I heard on the radio yesterday.
"Now I aint sayin she a gold digger/But she aint messin wit no broke niggaz...
Now I aint sayin you a gold digger you got needs" - Kanye


:) Jokes aside, everyone has their standards (what raises their heart rate), so go for what feels real.

Irena said...

Ndutu: Hi Neighbor and thanks for returning the favor... I must say though,if someone is just sitting on their laurel and not trying hard and that is the reason they are broke, then "I ain't messing with that either":-)

Wambui said...

YOU ARE BACK! Yes!!!!!! Yani, i waited until I resigned myself to a life without Chiru! Now I am going to go and read what you have to say for yourself - it had better be good ;-)

Wambui said...

@Sandman, you are so right! I mean look at Bill Gates - would anyone have gone near him as he tinkered away in his unwashed clothes, greasy hair and big glasses in an airless basement vying for the award for the most number of pizza crusts on a floor?

Yani please do not write a Mills and Boon, Ciru! You are far more talented than that...those books should be banned!

Imagine I don't even own a bike! ;-) G you made me laugh!

If he sits on his arse all day - I'm with Kanye...

Irena said...

wambui:I second the ban of Mills & Boons, there are no such men or women who exist and for the author to poison our minds into thinking that plus being they were were all blonde and blue eyed men on that for an african young girl who prolly had never seen one:-) Yeah let's start a campaign on that...