I need Love

I need love, love
ooh, ease my mind
And I need to find time
someone to call mine;

My mama said
You can't hurry love
No, you'll just have to wait
She said love don't come easy
But it's a game of give and take
You can't hurry love
No, you'll just have to wait
Just trust in a good time
No matter how long it takes

How many heartaches must I stand
Before I find the love to let me live again
Right now the only thing that keeps me hanging on
when I feel my strength,
ooh, it's almost gone

I remember mama saidYou can't hurry love
No you'll just have to waitShe said love don't come easy
It's a game of give and takeHow long must I wait
How much more must I takeBefore loneliness
Will cause my heart, heart to break?
No, I cant bear to live my life aloneI grow impatient for a love to call my own
But when I feel that I, I can't go on
Well these precious words keep me hanging on

Courtesy of Phil Collins

But seriously I need love and a Kijana to call my own!!! I'm getting tired of being single...but alas where to get a good one? Although, over the weekend I was given the advice that I'm too stringent with my requirements, so I should lower my standards .........Huh ?

What is wrong with wanting a non-traditional man who will not expect a bakuri of hot water and a towel as I kneel down and wash his hand to eat that Ugali which I toiled cooking for him after I got home. Mind you, this is after sitting on the traffic jam for 1hr? ...and then, come bed time I 'm expected to "Roll over and give him some sugar"-) and 1 minutes later, he rolls over and sleeps like a baby while I'm still wondering what the heck was that?

What is wrong with wanting a man who I can be myself with even when I ride a bike with him in the park even when it is not so African to do as a woman ?

What is wrong with wanting a man I can sit next to while him and his kijana buddies talk politics or Golf even and I actually has some points of my own in the discussion? What is wrong with wanting a man who we can talk for hours and hours about anything under the sun without being looked at as I talk too much.

What is wrong with wanting a man who will not question my dressing style when we go to a party and not call it "that is too sexy, you are a married woman now, need to dress like a married woman.....:-)".

What is wrong with wanting a man who once in a while will cook and do laundry without making a big deal out of it after all, he loves me and this is an act of love right?

What is wrong with wanting man whose idea of fun is not drinking all weekend but likes adventure such as hiking, driving aimlessly just enjoying the earth and its magnificent sites.

What is wrong with wanting a man who actually enjoys being physically fit and looking good just as he expects me to look like Janet Jackson ?


Is that too much to ask of a potential mate ? If it is, then I'm doomed.